This is probably one of the most difficult commandments for me. How can you honour someone or anyone for that matter who doesn't love nor want you? How can you honour someone who hurt you or beat you or tortured you? I'm sure many of us have pain associated with our parents, maybe even resentment, or even pure hatred.
So the question becomes... how to do honour these people? I believe that we have difficulty with this commandment because of the concept of time. I don't think God meant you have to honour them this very minute. I think he meant you to honour them in the future sometime. Time does heal with age forgiveness comes quickly after. It can take many years to truly forgive but like the old saying says... we will never forget.
You see, you can honour even the most wicked parent after enough time has passed. And even if that honour comes as you place a rose on their grave it is still honour and consequently you have fulfilled that commandment. You just don't have to honour you father and mother in the present. Anytime in the future would be great!
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Hallo Kay,
ReplyDeleteThe worst thing ever is when someone has harmed you and is not the least bit sorry for what has been done. After my ex-girlfriend harmed me irreparably (you remember her), I spiraled down to addiction and homelessness, for if everyone thought I was horrible then I must be horrible.
It was not until our God healed me through my beautiful wife (almost 22 years happily married, with two of the best daughters a father could ever have, ages 21 and 17) and many other wonderful people that I was restored and realized that all along I was not horrible. In time I came to forgive the ex and leave her to God's mercy, as we all need to (eventually) do with those who have harmed us.
Kay, your blogs are wonderfully written! I am saddened to read of how much you have hurt over these years (for what a kind and good heart you have!), but I am gladdened to see how much Grace has worked on you. You look better than ever! I would be most happy to resume a good friendship with an old friend.
- Stephen
Dear Ms.Obs her vation,
ReplyDeleteHonor your father and mother is not a commandment you must wait to do in the future. Like the laws of physics and chemistry, God also makes spiritual laws that must be enacted 24/7 and not once can there be an "I'll do it later" sign for him over the door of your heart. You need to understand what it means to honor. First of all, you do not base your love and honor for your parents on their merit. If God based His love for us on our merit, we would be facing His wrath right now. However, God loves us unconditionally. This love is real because it keeps the number of people in this world who have this love in their heart increasing in number. If everyone was spiteful and gave everyone according to their wages, we would all face deep sorrow and pain all over the world. There are those few people in this world that can love unconditionally, and I believe that it is because of their love from God that keeps this word quite friendly. So that's why you should continue acting this way too. It makes life peaceful and easier for you everyone else in the world.
So, you must honor your mother and father by loving them unconditionally. Have a heart of flesh, not of stone. So then, how to honor? Of course being obedient to them does mean you are honoring them, but the exception occurs when they tell you to do something that goes against God's orders. Then you cannot do it. By not doing this, listen carefully, you do not dishonor your parents, you honor them. How? Because you are listening to your parents through the approval of Jesus. So that means, if your parents did harm to you, you must forgive them. This is bringing honor to your parents, and also to your Parent, God, the Father by doing that. You see, by not following that commandment of honoring parents, you break God's Law and therefore, dishonor Him.
Honor your parents means, not to do their orders (if Christ approves then it’s good to do them), but it means that you honor them by being Christ-like to them. You will copy the attitude and character of your Father around them, this is honoring them. When you honor people, you put your best impression, not dressed inappropriately or looking unprofessional. Honoring means there will be no perversity in your language and you will speak words of peace and wisdom from Jesus. It’s that simple. Because let me tell you something, in the end, by doing this, your humbleness and honor you show toward your parents will be like a shining star before God and it will make you very great in front of your parents. You become the child of God that God wants you to be.
You see, no one goes through earth without endurance or trials, but the way you handle them is what matters and God always provides a door of escape for each problem, so that way it was not overly burdensome for you to handle or impossible to accomplish.
Much prayer and fasting Jesus said. Pray by yourself and ask God to give you the Holy Spirit to help you and comfort you. Honestly, if some pagan asked you if you had the Holy Spirit in you right now and you don't have the courage to say yes, or feel awkward saying yes, go pray to receive the Holy Spirit.
Lastly, God did not put you here by accident. God says that you are fearfully made, made in the inner most deepest parts of the earth. He knows all your days and he writes the chapters of them all. It was God's will to bring you forth into the world this way, not to harm you, but for you to have built strength, courage, wisdom and understanding, thigs that people do not receive when everything is going their way. Remember gold does not get purified unless by fire, and diamond is not polished unless by friction.
God doesn't love you because of who you are, He loves you because of who He is. You love your parents and everyone in the world, because God lives in you, the one who made all of them. Have good psychology, understand the human mind's weakness forgive them. Have a good day sister. May God's grace be with you and your family. Amen :)